Yesterday while everyone was a NYFW event of some sort, I went to an event for something I’m much more interested in – dating!
The Match.com 4th annual Singles in America panel was held at Toshi’s Living Room in the Flatiron Hotel.
For about an hour guests mingled, enjoyed snacks, and special Valentine’s Day themed cocktails by Vangogh Vodka.
Then, it was time for the discussion! On the panel was Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger, celebrity blogger Perez Hilton, Relationship Expert Dr. Emily Morse, Cosmo Sex & Relationship Editor Anna Breslaw, and Biological Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher.
For an hour they discussed all things dating and relationships based on a recent study done by Match.com. Here are some of the tidbits I found to be most interesting:
* the top 3 things people notice first in a person are: 1) teeth 2) confidence 3) grammar
* most people no longer follow the “3 day rule” of calling after a date
* according to Patti, NYC girls should go to the suburbs to meet guys
* according to Emily, “the issues you have on the 3rd date are issues you’ll probably have forever.”
* bars are statistically the worst place to meet people
* people are now meeting online more than anywhere else
I was definitely surprised by some of those stats. It was really fun and insightful hearing about the study, as well as the thoughts/opinions of the different experts.
Which of those statistics do you agree/disagree with most?
What are the top 3 things you first notice in a guy/girl?
Love this post!!! It just confirms my opinion that bars are literally the worst place to find a boyfriend. Yes, you can have fun. But at the end of the day NONE of the guys I have dated, I’ve met at a bar. I also agree with people meeting online. I actually have some friends who meet guys on Tinder. I’m still a little iffy about meeting people online, but I think it’s cool that people are having success!
I notice eyes first, always. Probably eyes, hair, and confidence are the top three I notice.
It kind of depresses me that most couples meet online now. I’m not really a fan of it, though I guess it works for a lot of people.
I agree that the worst place to go to meet someone is a bar. I also agree that more and more people are meeting online than in person.
The top three things I notice first in a guy are:
-eyes
-smile/teeth
-grammar (online) & -butt (in person) 😀
Bars are definitely the world place to meet people, in my opinion! I’ve met a few guys at bars that seemed really promising but things never, ever last longer than 3 or 4 days.
And the statement about the problems you have on a 3rd date lasting forever…SO TRUE.
What a fun event!
I was surprised by the suburbs thing. Do you recall what the context for that was?
Yes I was surprised by that too - especially considering going to the suburbs of New York can be quite the hike!
It was in response to a guest’s question about guys in NYC being non-committal, and Patti said how guys outside of the city are typically more ready to commit. I can see where she’s coming from, but I personally think there are plenty of guys within the city ready to be in a relationship.
I think there are plenty of great guys in nyc… great to meet someone in suburbs if thats where you want to live
I’m still holding out for a good one in NYC!
Been reading your blog for over 3 years now, but this is my first commenting. If you don’t mind me asking, have you done online dating? (Sorry if you ever answered in your blog in the past). If so, how was your experience?
Hey MK! I haven’t tried online dating, but am not opposed to it (I actually got 3 months free for match.com at this event, so maybe now’s my chance!). I was on Tinder for a couple of months, but didn’t love it. Will be doing a post about that soon
Thanks for your reply! I’m looking forward to your post (wasn’t a fan of Tinder either).
I am so so so jealous of you bloggers that have like, the perfect backdrop for your blog. There are no Patti’s or Perez’s in Raleigh.
But I will tell you this. I met my husband-to-be (we’re getting married in August) in grad school. What I noticed about him? He was smart, he was getting his PhD, he was hot, and he was so easy to talk to. I am so in love, and we’re getting on 4 years now.
Becca @ One Girl says
What a fun event! I tend to notice a guy’s smiles, grammar and their clothes first. I have several friends who have meet their husbands online and I myself am seriously dating someone I meet online. It’s not for everyone which I completely understand and I did not always like online dating but after trying it a few times and then taking a year+ break from online dating and not meeting anyone in the ‘real world’ I tried it again and meet a great guy. I do feel like a person often has to put a lot of time into online dating though (responding to emails/questions, maintaining a profile and connecting with others) that it can be time consuming.
This looks like such a fun (and educational!) event! NYC is apparently a notoriously bad place for women to date, but I’m still new here so I can’t speak from experience. If you don’t mind me asking, would you agree with this? I’m such a dating newbie, any suggestions (no bars of course 😉 ) on where I can meet some fine gentlemen?
Amanda says
I met my fiance on match! The first thing I noticed about him was his mustache, but when we met in person the first thing I noticed was confidence, and how he instantly made me feel comfortable.
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