desperate measures.

Lately I’ve been feeling quite overwhelmed by my desperate desire for change. Some things I (truly and honestly) considered within the past hour were:

  1. Cutting my own hair.
  2. Getting rid of every form of technology I own.
  3. Treating myself to a 3-day personal retreat.
  4. Dropping everything and moving out within the next month.

I’m relieved to say that I’m not going to act on any of my desperate measures (although, hopefully #4 will manifest itself in the near future). Why? Well, despite my desire for change, I realized that none of those changes will fix anything.

Don’t get me wrong – it’s not like there’s anything in my life that needs to be “fixed.” I’m just…discontent. A quarter-life crisis, maybe? While I’m certainly still going to pursue my life goals and dreams, rash decisions are just not the answer.

So…what is the answer? Simple - it’s the same that it always has been and always will be.

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The truth is, I never have to seek desperate measures. He already took care of that for me.

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Life is going to be full of discontentment. I still want to love. travel. use my talents. raise a family.

But when it’s all said and done…I already have everything I will ever need.

season of change.

Ever since I can remember, the fall has been my favorite season. I love it all…

the scenery.

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the attire.

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the food.

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the fun.

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While I’ve been enjoying all of those things, there is something particularly special about this fall. Along with the change in weather and the changing colors of nature, over these past few weeks I’ve also been noticing a change in myself.

I’ve made slight mention about the possible “life changes” I’ve been trying to ignite, but those aren’t the only changes I’m referring to. I’ve also been experiencing an internal sense of newness and, well…change.

I’m maturing – but in a different way than I have in the past.

I’m realizing what I want out of life…and what I don’t want out of life.

I’m beginning to understand what it means to truly have faith.

I’m finally getting to the point where I stop relying on myself so much, and instead starting to place my hopes and dreams solely in God’s hands.

I’m certainly still the same Gracie as I’ve always been. But I sure do hope that I become a less selfish, short-tempered, and more loving version of myself. And like I said – I want to get to the point where I can embrace the simplicity of giving everything up to God and trusting that He knows what’s best for me. The crazy part is that it really is that simple! True joy and fulfillment is not going to be found in a career, relationships, or a jean size. My joy comes from above.

Fall is a season of change, and this year it’s marking the beginning of a new season in my life: a season of excitement, newness, ups, downs, and reaching for the sky. But also a season of surrendering, learning, and glorifying God in all that I do.

(or at least trying to.)

Happy fall :)

“But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.” – Isaiah 40:31

  • What is your favorite thing about the fall?
  • Has this been a season of change in your life as well?

October 9, 2010.

Today will not be just any ordinary day.

I will not sweat the small things.

I will be thankful for the life God has given me.

I will not care whether or not things go according to “the plan.”

I will not think about the future. The future can wait until tomorrow.

I will listen to what others have to say without thinking about what I’m going to say next.

I will walk and talk with confidence – not because of anything I’ve done – but because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

I will act like I’m on vacation.

I will not be quick to judge or be easily annoyed.

I will convey love, kindness, humility, and more love.

Today is the only October 9, 2010 that there will ever be.

I can’t control whether or not exciting or life-changing things will happen today.

But I can control my attitude. my words. who I surround myself with.

I will appreciate the simple things.

…and have fun doing so.

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“A man’s heart plans his way, but the LORD directs his steps.” – Proverbs 16:9

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10 Ways to be a Bargainista.

Since I began blogging, a good deal of the questions I get from readers are about fashion. The funny thing is, I can barely count the names of designers I’m familiar with on one hand!

While I may not exactly be a “fashionista,” I do have a personal sense of style that is constantly changing. Because of that, I’ve found that spending an arm and a leg on clothing just isn’t worth it to me. I also don’t care much when it comes to buying name brands, so I’ve kind of naturally evolved into a bargain-hunter. And, well, who doesn’t love a good bargain?

So here are my 10 ways to rock a fashionable wardrobe without breaking the bank.

10 Ways: Be a Bargainista

1. Begin at the hot spots.
99.9% of the time, the clothing you want can be found at the following stores: H&M, Forever 21, TJ Maxx, Marshall’s, Ross, and Target. START. THERE! Most of the time these stores are getting their cues directly from designers (especially H&M and Forever 21) so you literally could come away with the exact trend you’re looking for. If right now you’re thinking, “but I don’t want fake designer clothes,” well…then you’re listening to the wrong person 😛

2. Thrift it.
I love love LOVE me a good thrift store. These days it’s almost more fashionable to say that something is “vintage,” so why not roll with it?! Thrift stores are getting better and better these days too. Stores like Buffalo Exchange and Plato’s Closet are pretty strict when it comes to letting stylish clothes get on their hangers, so you’ll most likely get lucky there. Also, if you’re good with sewing/etc., you could always take clothes you buy at thrift stores and alter them into entirely new pieces.

3. Know when to “indulge.”
There are always going to be a few items that are worth shelling out the full price for. Some of them include: the perfect LBD, a timeless pair of jeans, comfortable stilettos, and business attire that you’ll wear for at least a few years. Depending on your lifestyle and “obsessions,” that list might include a leather handbag or Chanel sunglasses. I get it. But when it comes to trends or clothes that you can easily find elsewhere for half the price, err on the inexpensive side.

4. Put money aside.
If you put aside $20 or so each week strictly for buying clothes, you can get at least a couple of items at the end of the month. And if you decide you do want to indulge in something, go the old-fashioned route and just save up! (because, if you’re going to take the leap and buy an expensive piece, at least avoid going in debt in the process). By having money set aside designated for clothes, going shopping won’t always feel like you’re doing something you shouldn’t be.

5. Pick versatile pieces.
This is one of my favorite points. Look for clothes that be worn in many different ways. For example, get a sundress that can be worn during the day, but with the addition of a belt, wedges, and a sweater can be transformed into an outfit perfect for a night out on the town. Or – a blazer that can be worn with dress pants to work but then over a sequin dress for an evening event. Versatile pieces allow you to get more bang for your buck out of your wardrobe.

6. When in doubt, don’t buy it.
To me, it’s really that simple. I’ve found that when I have to try to talk myself into buying something, I don’t really want it all that much anyway, and I sure as heck don’t need it.

7. Shop off-season.
This can be a tough one because trends are always changing, but shopping off-season is the best way to get some of your must-haves for a much lower price. For example, shop for a new trench coat at the end of winter, and grab next summer’s swimsuit at the end of August. Stores are always trying to get rid of the seasonal items, so you’re almost guaranteed to get a deal.

8. Bring a friend.
If you’re anything like me, it’s much easier to talk yourself into buying something when you’re by yourself. Having a friend around, though, allows you to talk it out. Do I really need this top? Am I ever going to actually wear it? If you have someone that can act as your voice of reason, you’ll be less likely to shell out your entire paycheck on that designer scarf.

9. Share with friends.
We all have those days where we look in our closet and say, “OMG I have like, NO clothes.” Instead of using that as an excuse to give yourself a shopping spree, ask a (fashionable) friend if you can raid her closet. If you can lay out some ground rules that you both agree on, you’ve got yourself quite a great, double-the-wardrobe resource going on.

10. Be unique.
Remember in high school when everyone HAD to have a Coach or Dooney & Bourke handbag? Or when everyone and their mother (literally) was/is wearing Uggs? I understand that there are going to be trends (trust me, I love a good trend), but why shell out hundred of dollars to look just like everyone else? Instead of trying to be noticed for how expensive your clothes/accessories are, focus on standing out because you have a unique, sassy sense of style!

Which of these tips do you agree with/follow the most?
What bargainista tip would you add to this list?

to regret or not to regret?

You know what I’ve never really understood? When people say something along the lines of, “I live without regrets,” or, “I don’t regret anything because it has made me who I am.”

You know what? I’m only 23 years old, and I can honestly say that there are plenty of things I regret. For example:

  1. Opting out of immediately going to my original college-of-choice and instead going to community college for 2 years.
  2. How I handled certain situations with some friendships/relationships.
  3. Doing things or acting in a way that was out of character for me.

Okay, that’s too much vagueness to get anywhere. But I think you know what I mean.

I can’t help but think that the concept of not allowing oneself to have regrets is harmful. Why? Because you may be more likely to do those things that you (should) regret. That’s the case for me, at least.

With that being said, I’m not going to bask in my past mistakes for the rest of my life. Instead, this is how I think regret should be handled. (Mind you – I must admit that I’m sort of teaching myself a lesson right now.)

1. Feel it.

If you experience regret – whether it was a situation that was out of your control or not – acknowledge how it has made you feel. Are you angry? Upset? With whom? Pretending like a situation never happened isn’t going to teach you anything, but it will leave you with bottled up emotions.

2. Repent.

Not all mistakes or regrets involve wrong-doing. But in my life, the majority of regrets I have in life are ones where I blatantly sinned. Whether you “believe” in sin or not, we all have a moral compass; we all inherently know when something we’ve done was wrong. I will be the first to admit that I’ve done some pretty crappy things in my short lifetime. Sure, they might have been no big deal according to some people’s standards, but they are things that I know were wrong for me. In these cases, the very first thing I do is acknowledge that I screwed up, and repent to God. How blessed I am to have such a forgiving, merciful God!

3. Apologize.

Has a past mistake that you’ve made caused any sort of effect on someone else? Think about it. You may not have had bad intentions, but our actions can affect others more than we tend to realize. Giving an apology where it’s due is key when it comes to moving on from a particular regret.

4. Accept.

It’s difficult to think about a past regret without thinking, “I wish I didn’t do that!!” or “I wish I DID do that!!” But, as obvious as this is, you cannot go back and change it. You must be be able to accept the fact that the past is the past! Sure, maybe things would’ve worked out better if you made a different decision, but thinking about that is a waste of time. Let me note that accepting a regret does not necessarily make it okay.

5. Learn.

This is sort of a no-brainer. If we ignore the mistakes we’ve made, we’re never going to learn how to do things differently in the future. So, instead of accepting the commonly-held belief of: “I have no regrets because they made me who I am today,” my personal view is, “I DO have regrets. Yes, they made me who I am today, but they still sucked. And I never, ever want to make those mistakes again.” See the difference?

  • How do you deal with regret?
  • Is there anything in particular that you regret lately?

want.

I want…

…to be known as a person of integrity.

…to convey love and kindness to everyone I encounter.

…my life to glorify God more.

…to stop caring what other people think.

…two kitties of my own.

…a fulfilling career.

…to love and be loved.

…to live out loud.

…to love out loud.

…to travel the world.

…to not care if I’m too “ordinary.”

…to not care if I’m “extraordinary” enough.

…to just be ME.

…to stop judging people.

…or having any ill thoughts toward others.

…to read more.

…to stop being a wishy-washy person.

…to get married during the fall.

…to be a mother.

…to be a mother as incredible as my own.

…cookies.

…a home in Vermont.

…to go back to Disney World.

…to be able to do crane pose.

…to get a pixie haircut.

…friends who love me and challenge me.

…to practice law.

…to treasure each and every day.

…to treasure each and every moment.

…to praise God for HIS sake, rather than my own.

…to delete my Facebook.

…to stop being addicted to my BlackBerry.

…to get my tattoos removed.

…to learn more.

…to take martial arts classes.

…butterflies.

…to perform more random acts of kindness.

…or at least smile at others more.

…a slumber party with my girlfriends.

…to laugh more.

…to cry more.

…it to be autumn.

…to cherish *every* season – not just autumn!

…to care less about personal success.

…and more about living a Christ-like life.

…to be continued.


  • What do you want?