ask G, part 1.

1. What do you suggest for someone visiting the Big Apple - best places to see, can’t miss, or foodie recommendations? – Dana

This is definitely one of the top questions I get, so I actually made a full page dedicated to NYC – my favorite tips, restaurants, and other attractions. Click here to view it!

One of my biggest recommendations for visiting New York is to check out the more local attractions (especially downtown). The touristy things in Midtown can be fun, but to get the real feel of NYC you should explore places like Greenwich Village, West Village, and Soho.

Also, taking a bus tour is a great way to see most of the city in just a few hours.

2. Dating for a Christian girl, tips & advice or what you’ve learned? – Dana

This is a great question and something I’ve become quite passionate about lately. I hate to leave you hanging, but I actually have a handful of posts coming in the next few weeks about this topic (as does Jessi). Stay tuned!

3. How do you balance blogging and work? – Marissa

Well first of all, I work from home (real estate appraisal administration for my dad’s company), so that makes balancing the two much easier than when I had my office job. I work from 9-5, so I try to write blog posts in the morning and/or evening. And since I work on the computer it’s easy to keep up with GML and social media throughout the day.

Something else that I’ve found helps a lot is scheduling and pre-writing posts. I try to have at least two or three posts saved at any time so if I have a particularly busy day, I can still put up some new content.

4. How do you balance work and play, and what does a typical day look like for you? – Emily

Balancing work and play is definitely an art form, especially when there’s just so much of both to be done ;) I’m lucky in the sense that my job isn’t project based, so it’s pretty easy to just shut my computer and be done for the day. And then other aspects of my work (like blogging) just naturally feel like play to me. Not to mention that networking is of huge importance in New York, so just about any social event can be beneficial to your career without intending for it to be.

I tend to have something social going on most nights of the week, with much more on the weekends. I do try to have at least one or two nights at home to just relax.

My daily routine can look completely different from one day to the next, but typically it looks like:

- wake up around 7am
- have at least 30 minutes of time with God
- squeeze in a workout if I can
- work on GML and social media for church
- start work at 9am, eat breakfast
- I take a 30-60 minute break around 1pm where I either go to the gym or run errands
- eat lunch around 2pm
- throughout the whole day I do social media and GML stuff when work is slow/caught up
- finish work at 5pm
- evenings/nights I either have some sort of meeting, stay home and watch TV, or go out with friends

5. What do you mean when you say “part career?” I love blogging and am no way in it for the money, but making money for something I love would obviously be awesome. Do you actually make a reasonable income, and if so, how did you get into that position? - Nicole

When I first started blogging, I never anticipated it becoming part of my career. I had no idea it was even something you could monetize! But when I realized that blogging is something I wanted to do long term and that I could make income from it, it was an easy decision.

At first I was part of the Foodbuzz ad network, but now I’m part of BlogHer Publishing Network and have been for about 2 years. I LOVE BlogHer and highly recommend them. My income comes from the ads you see on GML’s main page, as well as sponsored posts. Right now blogging makes up about 1/3 of my income. If you want to learn more about making money from blogging, definitely check out Katy Widrick’s blog – she has great tips and advice.

I do want to note that even as my income from blogging continues to grow (and yes, it’s something I would love to do full time), it’s very important to me that GML never looks or feels like a “professional blog.” To me, that takes away from what a blog is supposed to be! So I really make it a point that the products I review are always ones that I truly love and use myself. I never want to come across as a saleswoman.

6. What would you suggest if you realize that you and your friends don’t mesh anymore and that you would like a new friendship group? – Anonymous

This is a tough one. Friendships do change as life goes on, either by getting closer or drifting apart. First of all, remember that those seasons are normal and a part of life. But with that being said, I personally wouldn’t cut them off completely. You can always add friends to your life, but it doesn’t mean you have to entirely cut ties with others (if the friendships were unhealthy or something detrimental happened, though, than that’s a different story!).

I think the best thing to do is to open yourself up to more opportunities to meet new friends. Start getting involved in things you and enjoy and are passionate about. For me, that meant finding a church that had young people with similar lifestyles to mine. For other people that might look like taking a new class, joining a gym, volunteering somewhere, etc.

I also think that the most important thing about making new friends is getting over the fear of rejection. At some point you’ll have to take the initiative and ask someone if they want to meet for coffee, for example. Putting yourself out there can be scary and feel weird at first, but you’ve got to start somewhere!

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Please note that I’m *not* an expert and that this advice is based solely on my own experiences and thoughts.

How do you balance work and play in your own life?
Have a question? Feel free to leave it as a comment on this post or ask me anonymously.

ask G.

A couple of months ago I wrote a post called “why blog?” Now that I look back, writing that post was the first step in falling in love with blogging in a whole new way. It helped me to connect to my readers more than ever, and it changed how I view this once-hobby (now passion/part career) of mine.

Since that post, I’ve received more reader emails than ever with questions about everything from beauty products, to dating, to moving to New York, and anything in between. And I’ve got to say – I love reading and replying to those emails!

Because of that, for a while I’ve toyed around with the idea of doing an “Ask Gracie” series on GML. I would always instantly decide it wasn’t a good idea mostly because a) I’m not an expert in…anything and b) I was nervous about how it much honesty it would require on my end.

…but isn’t honesty what it’s all about? And while I’m not an expert, I do think I’ve experienced at least some of life’s highs and lows, and learned a heck of a lot from them.

So here’s what I’m going to do.

I’m going to do a trial month of opening up the floor for a little Q&A action. You can either:

  • leave your question as a comment on this post
  • email your question(s) to me gracie(at)girlmeetslife(dot)com
  • or *gasp* ask me anonymously

Disclaimer: While I’ll definitely do my best to answer all of your questions, I can’t promise I publicly will for every single one (depending on how many I get). Inappropriate questions probably won’t get a response, and if I feel the question is too personal I’ll reply letting you know.

So let’s do this, shall we? Ask away…!

a to z.

I’m a sucker for a good survey. Remember how much fun they were back in the MySpace days? Just me? Okay…

Anyway, I saw this one on Janetha’s blog and knew I had to steal it. So here ‘goes!

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A. Attached or Single?

Single.
(But since when is the opposite of single attached? Haha.)

B. Best Friend?

Miss Marquez, of course.

C. Cake or pie?

Cake.
But not chocolate cake.
And the exception is banana cream pie.

D. Day of choice?

Hmm. I love a good Friday, but Tuesdays and Saturdays are pretty great too.

E. Essential Item?

I guess I’ll have to go with my phone. I’d be lost without it.

F. Favorite color?

Dark purple.

G. Gummy bears or worms?

Worms!

H. Home town?

Langhorne, Pennsylvania.

I. Favorite Indulgence?

Massages for sure, followed closely by pedicures.

J. January or July?

July. Especially the 4th of.

K. Kids?

One day!

L. Life isn’t complete without?

Friends and family. Period.

M. Marriage date?

n/a.

N. Number of brothers/sisters?

One lovely sister, Katie :)

O. Oranges or Apples?

Apples.

P. Phobias?

Arachnophobia…but even more so the fear of these creatures (look at your own risk).
srhgurhgaughraik#%*#^%GLHJglhdgls

Q. Quotes?

Oh, don’t even get me started. Have you seen my Pinterest and/or Tumblr? If I had to pick a few…

“Wake up every morning with the thought that something wonderful is about to happen.”

“If you want to know where your heart is, look where your mind wanders.”

 

“If you’re feeling frightened about what comes next, don’t be. Embrace the uncertainty. Allow it to lead you places. Be brave as it challenges you to exercise both your heart and your mind as you create your own path towards happiness, don’t waste time with regret. Spin wildly into your next action. Enjoy the present, each moment, as it comes; because you’ll never get another one quite like it. And if you should ever look up and find yourself lost, simply take a breath and start over. Retrace your steps and go back to the purest place in your heart… where your hope lives. You’ll find your way again.”

R. Reasons to smile?

Umm…there are so many! But I have to say I’m actually a sucker for (cute) PDA. And nicknames.

S. Season of choice?

FALL FALL FALL FALL. I am obsessed.

T. Tag 5 People.

Steph
Andi
Katy
Alyssa
Jessi

U. Unknown fact about me?

Despite being a pretty outgoing and social person, I’m an introvert by nature. For the most part, I can only recharge from spending time alone.

V. Vegetable?

Sweet potatoes, holla.

W. Worst habit?

I’m slightly addicted to my phone.

X. Xray or Ultrasound?

Haha, clearly the only option for the “X” question. I guess ultrasound – seems less harmful.

Y. Your favorite food?

How can I possibly pick just one?! Would probably have to go with pizza.

Z. Zodiac sign?

Pisces.

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Your turn! Pick a few to answer in the comments section…
(Would love to hear your L, R, U, and Y :))

seven and eight {of fifty}.

7. Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?

Gosh, these questions are getting pretty deep, huh? Well let’s see…

I can honestly say that yes – I’m doing what I believe in. Although my full-time job in real estate appraisals isn’t necessarily my passion, I’m motivated every day by the fact that I work for the family business, which also helps support the lives of other employees that I consider friends. And then of course there’s FreelyBe, which I’ve made no secret how much I believe in that as what I’m supposed to do as my career/calling in life (what I have made a bit of a secret over the past 6+ months is what exactly is going on with FreelyBe, which I’ll explain within the next month or so!).

A couple of years ago I wouldn’t have been able to say any of that. I guess the mid-twenties really is when one “finds herself”…

8. If the average human life span was 40 years, how would you live your life differently?

That’s easy.

I would take more time to get to know people.
I would stop caring so much about trivial things.
And I would take a heck of a lot more risks.

I like to think I’ve taken risks in life so far, but the truth is that I play it safe way more often than I would like. I’ve gotten a lot better with taking risks as I’ve gotten older, but there’s definitely still that little voice inside saying “just wait – there’s always tomorrow.” And I hate that.

Oh, and I’d also travel way more than I have by now. I’ve got to see the world, dangit.

Your turn! Answer #7 and/or #8?

six: do what you love.

6. If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

“Do what you love, do it in the most adventurous place, and make sure it helps other people.”

Well, that’s a simple one. The answer is FreelyBe, which is quickly coming to fruition. Not only is FreelyBe what I want to do professionally and also going to help people around the world, but I know it’s exactly what God has called me to do. So to me, it’s sort of a no-brainer that that will yield the most joy in my life. The fact that it will also allow me to work side by side with my best friend in my favorite place in the world is the icing on the cake. I am blessed!

…and I mean, if I had to pick a second choice, it wouldn’t hurt to have “job” of traveling around the world reviewing resorts and restaurants. I’m just saying.

Side note – stay tuned for the re-launch of the FreelyBe website and our overall business model, coming in June or July. I can’t wait to share with you all what we’ve had in the works over the past 5 months!

Your turn – what kind of work/career would bring you the most happiness?

five: what i’d change.

Umm, yeah. Totally forgot about this fifty question challengeafter being four questions in.

Dumb blonde? Subconscious commitment-phobe? I’m not really sure what happened.

Anyway, here’s number five.

5. What is the one thing you’d most like to change about the world?

Well this is quite the loaded question – one that I’m not going to attempt to sufficiently answer at what is now 7am. So I’m going to take the liberty of listing more than one thing I’d like to change…

  • no more hunger
  • no more disease
  • no more hatred, abuse, violence, or injustice
  • everyone to have the same freedom and opportunity to pursue whatever they wanted in life
  • no more bugs, ew
  • someone would finally invent teleportation
  • cookies didn’t take so long to bake
  • sweating didn’t exist
  • sharks didn’t exist
  • travelling was less expensive
  • dogs didn’t smell or poop
  • free wireless everywhere
  • clowns didn’t exist
  • (seriously…who actually likes clowns?)
  • …but mostly just the first four bullets….

What are the top three things you’d change in the world?

four: walk the walk.

4. When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?

Um, ouch?

Talking the talk but not walking the walk is one of the things I fear doing the most…especially in the age of social media where what you say can essentially reach millions of people. I’m one of those freaks who has to verbally process just about everything, so you can see why this might be an issue for me.

If I’m being completely honest, I don’t know the answer to this. While I really hope I’ll have done more than I said, the reality is that I’m also a blogger – which, clearly is a lot more saying than doing. At the same time, though, my plans for the future look a lot different than the career/life I’m leading right now, so I guess we’ll see…

Moral of the story: be careful what you tweet.

Justkiddingbutnotreally.

three: do what you love.

3. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like and like so many things we don’t do?

My answer to this question boils down to three things:

…because of money.
…because of others’ expectations of us.
…because of our own expectations of ourselves.

There’s not much of a way around the first one. Although I strongly believe it’s possible to make a decent living by doing what you love (I mean, that’s what I’m working towards right now), there are so many circumstances that can come in the way of that – circumstances that are different for everyone. It would be ignorant to deny that fact.

As for the second two, my answer is pretty simple.

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Easier said than done? Maybe. But it’s worth the risk, if you ask me.

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what you love. Because when you do what you love, the world will need it.”

two: if you never try…

2. Which is worse, failing or never trying?

I think that this quote I came up with last year pretty much sums up my answer.

I didn’t start living by this mantra until about two years ago. In fact, before that, my life was quite the opposite. I don’t even think I’d want to have been friends with the old me. It’s not there was anything “wrong” with me, but I also didn’t have much going for me either. Sure – I got good grades, graduated college, and had a comfortable life. But I also didn’t have a passionate life, and I played it safe in every possible way. I lacked drive and confidence, which held me back more than I like to admit.

The good news, though, is that I broke free from that and – for the first time in my life – can say that I’m truly happy, passionate, and beyond excited for the future. If it weren’t for some serious risks and trial and error along the way, though, I wouldn’t even be close to where I am today.

Your turn.

fifty questions: number one.

A few months ago Emily answered a series of fifty questions on her blog, and the idea of doing the same has been in the back of my mind ever since. I avoided the little "project” because I try to keep things on GML fun and, well…slightly mindless, so to speak. But, who says I can’t take these semi-serious questions and give them a little bit of my own twist?

So that’s what I’ll be doing.

I’ll be taking each question and post as it comes – some might be serious, others not at all, and everything/anything in between. In other words, I have no idea where the heck I’m going with this, so join me for the train wreck ride, will you? Starting with…

1. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

Well shoot. This is already off to a “I really don’t feel like thinking this much” start.

(five minutes later)

Honestly, I’d say I’d be exactly the ripe age of 24 that I am.

I’d say that my maturity (and lack-thereof) and passions in life are congruent with being 24. While some people my age are already married with kids…and others are still living in their parents’ basement playing video games and smoking weed…I like to think that I’m in a pretty appropriate place for this stage of my life (not that there’s anything wrong with those other “life paths”).

If I had to describe my mentality and life right now it would be work hard, play hard…and I don’t think I’d have it any other way.

Your turn – how old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?