My friends and I often use the acronym L.O.P.
ell-oh-pee.
Life Of Party.
People often misunderstand, though, what being an LOP is all about. When you first hear it you might think it’s about being obnoxious and/or getting attention, but it’s actually quite the opposite. It’s actually about not caring if you get an ounce of attention.
Being an LOP means having fun no matter where you are or who you’re with. It’s about knowing who you are and owning it. Being the life of the party is best learned by just doing it, but here are some of the ways you can practice finding your inner LOP.
be undignified.
In other words, practice the age-old trick of just not caring what other people think of you. If that means dancing the night away and getting all sorts of weird – do it! If it means you feel like just chilling and having good conversation with people – do that. There’s no prescription for what being undignified means other than simply doing and acting like YOU.
dress how you’re feeling.
…not how you think you’re supposed to. The people that are always having the most fun are the ones who feel the most comfortable in their own skin. If you feel like wearing ripped up jeans and a t-shirt but instead wear a tight black dress, chances are you’re not going to have the best time you possibly can. So whether you decide to rock combat boots or a girlie floral dress (or both) – always go with your gut when it comes to what you wear.
be nice.
Just about everyone is drawn to nice people. Sure, you can get attention by being a diva or a jerk, and some people go that route. But to be a true LOP, it takes someone who has the confidence to be nice to everyone and anyone. Being mean and rude might get you somewhere for a while, but the nice ones really do always finish last.
enjoy your company.
What’s your motive when you’re out or at a party? LOPs are the ones spending time getting to know other people and enjoying their company rather than wasting precious time trying to impress them. It’s when you stop worrying about yourself and instead focus on others that will lend to having the best time possible.
Sometimes I’m an LOP, and sometimes I’m not. But I’ll tell you one thing - what it all comes down to your attitude. Your confidence. Being comfortable in your own skin and who are naturally are. When you do that, you’ll automatically give off a magnetic vibe to others. The irony is, though, that if you’re truly walking the LOP walk, you won’t even care what sort of “vibes” you’re giving off anyway. And that’s quite freeing, if you ask me.
What does being an LOP mean to you? Agree/disagree with any of these?
Love this!!
You absolutely right about many of these points, I especially like the one about dressing how you feel, truly makes all the difference!
Thanks for the tips:)
Great, great post. I wish someone had smacked me with this advice (in a nice way) when I first got to university, it would have helped so many things! I completely agree with ‘dress how you’re feeling’ the people who look best also usually look comfortable. ‘Be nice’ is also spot on, it’s something I think most people forget when they think about being an LOP as you call it!
Love the idea of being an LOP- I think I’ll adopt that with my girlfriends. These are all such great tips too. Recently I’ve found that going out and trying to act a certain way or look a certain way, really isn’t that fun and it puts so much pressure on the night. I’d much rather go out and just be silly and dance and laugh and not really care who’s watching!
Great thoughts! I think being a LOP is jut about being comfortable with yourself and not worrying about trying to impress anyone else. I’ve gone out before where I’ve tried to hard to “look hot” and be entertaining and attention getting - usually results in me looking/acting like an idiot in a dress I’m clearly uncomfortable in. My best nights out have been when I’ve been with my closest friends/boyfriend and just focused on having a good time and doing what I want to do.
Being a LOP is living YOLO to the fullest. And being a honey badger, cause you don’t give a sheeeet.
I agree with all the above! It’s totally about being you and having the time of your life - when you are happy and confident, you’re bound to be the LOP!
AMAZING. I couldn’t agree more. Being yourself, embracing each moment, and not letting the world bring you down is what life is all about. <3
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greattt post. just the reminder I needed tonight! shouted out you & just talked about it in my last post too.
love your blog! enjoy the rest of your weekend!
This is a FANTASTIC post. Love that you call it and LOP. you are too cool for the school girl.