practical ways to de-stress.

Whether you’re young or old, a student or a CEO, you’ve probably dealt with stress at one time or another. Stress seems to be one of those things that has become so common that people accept it as just a part of life. But if you ask me — it doesn’t have to be!

I used to struggle with stress pretty badly. From my college years into my first few years as a young professional, I almost felt as though I was being irresponsible if I didn’t feel stressed out. Over the past year, though, I’ve learned that stress is not only unnecessary, but that being happy and stress-free actually lends to a more successful career and personal life.

Some people swear by the power of positive thinking when it comes to de-stressing, but I think that sometimes that’s easier said than done. Instead, I’ve found that implementing certain realistic tools and activities is the best way to stop stress in its tracks.

Here are my eight practical ways to de-stress.

1) Take a walk.
A lot of the time, simply changing your environment can help you put aside whatever stress you may be feeling. Even just a 5 to 10-minute walk to relax and refocus your energy can do the trick.

2) Meet up with a friend.
Talking to someone (even if it’s not about what’s giving you stress) is another great way to refocus your thoughts and take you down off the ledge. Getting a good laugh in can do wonders too!

3) Write it down.
If you’re anything like me, most of the time I don’t even know what it is that’s giving me stress. When I sit down with a pen and paper, though, I can organize my thoughts and realize exactly what’s bothering me. That realization alone can help the situation become less daunting and can instantly lessen stress.

4) Try breathing exercises.
The simple act of taking a few minutes to just breathe is one of the best ways to relax when you’re feeling stressed out. Try some of these easy stress-relief breathing techniques.

5) Stress eat… the healthy way.
No, I’m not suggesting downing a pint of Ben & Jerry’s. But did you know that what you eat can actually help control your stress levels? Check out these seven foods that fight stress.

6) Make a de-stress playlist.
For me, music is a great tool to help me relax and take the edge off of a stressful day. I suggest putting together a playlist of your favorite happy and/or mellow songs and make it your go-to for when you feel stress creeping in.

7) Do something mindless.

Sometimes all it takes to de-stress is to let your mind chill out for a bit. Give yourself some time get your mind off of things — like a crossword puzzle, read a book, or even take a short nap. Don’t forget that your mind needs rest too!

8) Give yourself a daily cut off time.
This is probably my number one tip when it comes to de-stressing. At the end of the work day (and sometimes for 30 minutes in the middle of the day) I force myself to shut off my computer, put my phone on silent, and just focus on relaxation and “me time.” It’s so easy to get caught up in to-do lists and emails to the point that we find ourselves in what seems like a constant state of work. When I make relaxation a part of my daily routine, I find myself looking forward to it, and that automatically helps stress subside.

This article was originally posted on The Huffington Post. Check out all of my articles here!

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Which of these do you agree with most? What are your best tips and tools for de-stressing?

3 tips for keeping a journal.

Over the past two years, journaling has become an important part of my daily routine. It’s been life-changing, actually.

I think what it comes down to is that my brain just thinks differently when I have to organize my thoughts in a way to write them down. It forces me to give certain thoughts and feelings more clarity than if I just let them swirl around with the million other thoughts in my mind.

…does that make sense?

Keeping a journal might not be right for everyone, but for me it’s the best way to reflect on what’s going on in my heart and mind. The process can feel a little bit awkward at first, though, so here are my three tips for keeping a journal.

1) keep journals for specific topics.
This is something I learned from my best friend Jessi. For example, you can have one journal dedicated to a career-related vision, one dedicated to relationships in your life, one dedicated to something you’re trying to overcome, etc. It may seem like overkill to have that many journals, but it can really help with narrowing down what the core priorities in your life are and cultivate growth in those areas.

I was actually just sent a new journal the other day from Poppin, and it couldn’t have come at a better time! I’m dedicating it to a new venture I’ve been thinking about lately. So thanks for that, Poppin :)

2) answer your own questions.
A lot of the time…well, most of the time…when I sit down to journal I have no idea what to write. So something I started doing almost daily is to write down questions and then answer them myself. My go-to’s are:

What do I want today to look like?
What’s heavy on my heart?
What am I thankful for?
What are my prayer requests today?

Simply answering those questions can really help put things into perspective and change my outlook for the entire day.

3) just WRITE.
Anything. Everything. It can look like chicken scratch. It doesn’t matter. The bottom line is to just get your thoughts and feelings down on paper. The point of keeping a journal isn’t for it to become a published work – it’s to improve your mental, emotional, and spiritual life. And that’s going to look different for everyone.

Do you keep a journal? How has it helped you?

lessons lately.

Tuesdays are still the best nights out.

That would be Jessi enjoying her birthday extravaganza last night, which started at Tequila Park and ended at Lil Charlie’s.

Rule #1 of being in charge of the cake: don’t forget the cake.

That’s right – I got a great big birthday (cookie) cake, brought it to Jessi’s party, AND FORGOT TO GIVE IT TO HER. I did at least sort of make up for it with a new cake today…

“He is the God of the second chance.” I like that.

Amazon makes it quite easy to create your own store. So I decided to create a (still work in progress) GML store!

I get so many requests for my favorite products/books/etc., so I thought it would be nice to have them all in one place.

Even the littlest bit of unplugging can make all the difference in the world.

I actually ended up having an even more productive day than usual when I finally sat down at my computer and just took on my emails all at once. Compartmentalization is underrated.

This.

…and this.

What’s a lesson you’ve learned lately?